Day three

Day three is where it gets a little bit tougher because this is going to involve saying “no” to other people. I want you to think of someone who always asks you to do something that you don't want to do. Or maybe someone invited you to an event that you don't want to go to. If it's an event on Facebook, that's a really easy way to say no to someone. Whatever comes to mind first is probably the right thing to focus on, so whether that's actually being able to tell that person that you can't make it to that event or if it's just preparing talking points for when you know that thing is going to come up that you don't want to do, either one of those are totally acceptable.

I'm not above fibbing a little bit here, you can tell them you have something else to do. If you're just starting out with this stuff, it can be really difficult to say, "Hey, you invited me to this thing. I just really don't want to go." Some of you will get there eventually. But it's not going to be authentic for everyone, so I'm not above telling them you have something else to do or you really need to rest because you had a long week at work. Just think through what that conversation would look like, and if it happens to come up today, great! If not, you're totally prepared for when it does.

So let me know what you're going to work through today either by emailing me back or sharing on social media.This one might be a little bit interesting because it involves other people, but if you want to, use #saynotosayyes, and tag me @airyfairyfeminist. You can totally do it and you will feel so much better afterwards. Good luck.